As a woman who’s approaching the big 3-0, I can feel my biological clock ticking. Well, it’s either that or the constant pressure from my parents to produce grandchildren.
On second thought, it’s definitely the latter. They grew up, and we still are raised, believing that as soon as you hit a certain age (widely believed to be 30), that your odds of having a happy, healthy child go down. But as modern medicine improves, this is becoming more of a myth. The truth is, women are having babies later on in life — and they’re generally just as healthy as moms who give birth in their early 20s.
But what’s it like for more mature moms and dads — and how old is too old? These “older” parents sound off:
1. “I feel like being a 30+-year-old mother of an infant you get less support. As a young mother, everyone wants you to do well so they help you out but at 30+ you’re expected to have your shit together and know what you’re doing.”
2. “My wife and I got a surprise in my late 30s (my son was born when I was 39). Being an older parent has had its positives and negatives. All in all I think in my case it is a good thing that I am an older parent. I do not believe that I had the maturity to be an effective parent when I was younger.”
3. “I had a kid at 39.5. I am the product of multiple divorces and it took me a long time to find an awesome dad for my kid. I actually broke up with the previous boyfriend because it was pretty obvious he’d be a horrible father (he never had kids). I’ve learned that there really is no ‘proper’ way of doing things.”